He was sexy AF. You know the kind of person who you are immediately and intensely drawn to? The kind who you want to sit right next to? The kind who you want to hear talk for hours? He was warm and open. He was gentle and caring. He was fun yet reliable and held boundaries. He was sexy AF.

We were on a playground at the ocean. The kids were all running and playing and coming back to the parents only to run away again and return, much like the waves of the ocean. The level of engagement that he had when he interacted with his children, his wife and my children was impressive. The space that he held during conversation was on point. The child-like excitement that could be heard clearly through every word was intoxicating. The gentleness that he used when speaking with his wife, asking her what she needed to do for herself that day was majestic. The firm yet kind boundary that he held with his child when a behavior cropped up was breathtaking. He was sexy AF.

It wasn’t until we had been there for almost 15 minutes that I realized that I hadn’t actually checked out his physical body. Honestly, I didn’t feel the need to previously. I was happy sitting in his energy and feeling his energy and his physical body meant little to me. I turned my head and looked over. Yep, sexy AF. You know, to this day I can’t describe one physical thing about the man at the playground but I will never forget the energy that he came with. It was such a blatant and obvious example for me that your energy is what introduces you first.