It took me a bit of time to see it clearly. I felt like a bug, pressed against the windshield of a car. As soon as I could pull my face back far enough to see clearly, it was obvious and blatant. When you are speaking with someone who wants to be right more than they want to understand the situation that is being co-created, you may find yourself in a relentless no-win situation.

One may think that my face would hurt given how hard I had it pressed against that windshield. Well, I will confirm for you, it hurts. It absolutely hurts.

I should have realized it a lot earlier, but I didn’t. The signs were all there. I could name them. The self-righteousness oozed from this individual. The more self-righteous this individual was the more I pulled back and the more obvious my self-confidence issues became. It wasn’t a place where I liked to find myself, but there I was. I was biting my tongue because I knew I wouldn’t be heard. This individual had a need to be right that squashed any desire to see the whole picture and work through the co-created situation.

I asked myself, “Why are you experiencing this? What do you need to learn here?”. It wasn’t until there was space that I could see it. It is hard to see something clearly when your face is pressed against the glass. Why did I have someone who was literally oozing self-righteousness from every ounce of their soul in my reality? The answer was easy, because I was backing down. Because this individual's self-righteous energy triggered my self-confidence issues and I needed to grow. I NEEDED TO GROW and I felt so grateful for this clarity.