When you are speaking with someone who wants to be right more than they want to understand the situation that is being co-created, you may find yourself in a relentless no-win situation.
I don’t paint them for anyone but me. No one ever looks at my toenails and comments about how amazing they are. I never seek external validation from others about my toenails, never once. I have never asked anyone “do you think my toenails look good”. I literally only paint them for myself.
So, what if the thing that determined how much you enjoyed the experience was actually inside your head, it was your mindset, but you assumed it was external.
Have you ever seen a tree that allows other trees to grow underneath it? The tree offers protection from hash winds while the younger tree establishes roots and grounds itself. Eventually, the young trees won’t need protection, but right now it offers security for their longevity.
On my run that day, it quickly became obvious to me that my technique was all over the place. My right hand crossed the midline of my body with every arm pump. It was a lateral motion rather than a motion that moved me forward.
Initially it just started with irritation, the sock just didn’t feel right. I thought if I wiggled my toes, acknowledged it, and then try to put it out of my mind that it would go away. The farther I ran, the more obvious the bunch in the sock became.